Differentiating between what you see and your interpretation of it. Most of the times we interpretate situations wrongly with a negative connotation. For example:
After class i ask this girl if she wants to stay to have a coffee, she say no and rushes home. I stay thinking oh no she don’t like me! When in reality she had to take a big shit and was in a hurry.
So don’t try to judge this situations of which you have no way of really knowing what was the reason behind what happened.
And if you do why not judge with a positive connotation instead of negative. Like :
She didn’t accept the coffee because she had to take a shit, and i was so attractive to her that she didn’t want to date me on those conditions.
Differentiating between what you do and a person’s reaction to it. For example:
I speak to a girl that has shown to be interested in me. However my interpretation of our last encounter Is that I interacted poorly and so i also think now that she is not so interested in me anymore. In reality i can’t know what she thought of it. So there is no point in wondering because it will lead to a negative connotation about it usually. So dont judge it, it might be that she actually enjoyed the interaction and kept the interest.
Point is to control your mind and not let it try to comprehend and take conclusions about the mind of someone based on their apparent actions. And if you do wonder, wonder positively. For example: she said she liked my shoes, we shared pictures of our pets, she said goodbye to me, she is attracted and interested in me.
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